In the very beginning I was struggling with not being able to continue with my routine and also struggling with getting back to it after some time. My mistake being that I was trying to get back to something I had created for myself under completely different circumstances. So after some time I realized that I needed to create a new routine, take it slow and create it with the baby and not have one for her and one for me.
She is slowly getting into somewhat of a routine with sleeping and eating and within that routine I could start including things that I wanted for her and me, baby steps of course.
Getting baby to sleep in her crib
We had her sleeping in a bed next to our bed and I wanted to start getting her used to her crib instead. So we started with putting her there during her naps. In the beginning she would just wake up straight away and not fall asleep again. But we continued to try and try every time, we also put her baby nest in the crib so she might feel more comfortable. And now she is taking long naps in the crib and even if she wakes up she falls back asleep on her own, at least some of the times.
Deciding day and night time
After reading and reading this one seemed to be important for all advice given regarding how to sleep train a baby. So we started doing bedtime routine at 8 morning routine at 8. We also decided to continue working on getting her comfortable in the crib but keep her in our bedroom at night for now.
So knowing that bedtime was at 8 we started to work out a bedtime routine and start doing that around 7.30, now that’s obviously no exact time, sometimes it ends up being 8.30 instead. The few hours between the bedtime routine and the next feeding are hours that she doesn’t want to sleep right now haha, but I believe in consistency and that eventually it will have effect. We make sure to do the same things ever day. Our bedtime routine include:
I wouldn’t say a bath is necessary every day, but our little girl loves baths and her skin is a little dry so we put some coconut oil in the bath to make her skin less dry too.
- Changing into pyjamas
I realize that a baby doesn’t know the difference between day clothes and pyjamas, but it’s still something that signals that it’s time for bed.
Now I usually feed her where ever, in the living room usually, but this feeding and the ones during the night, I do in her room. I dim the lights, turn on some slow and nice music and I feed her around 8.
During this feeding I have my reading time, that is reading for personal development. During the night feedings I watch Netflix to stay awake, but during this bedtime feeding I take my time to read something for my personal development.
“The five love languages” – Gary Chapman, right now!
- Put her to bed
Well, that’s the idea anyway. For now she doesn’t want to sleep at this specific time. But we continue and one day, she will. We’re very grateful to not have a screaming baby though, she’s just awake, not wanting to miss out on anything, a real party girl.
- Dinner and get ready
So when she’s sleeping, or when she’s supposed to sleep, we have dinner and then I go get ready for bed, skincare routine, change my clothes and so on, and just be with Odi and watch TV.
- Last feeding
Around 11 I do one more feeding, right now she usually have been up for a while since she dosen’t want to sleep at the bedtime we set haha. So she falls right asleep after this feeding.
I feel better going into the baby room for the night feedings since that is where she will sleep eventually, because I wake up a bit from going into the next room, so that Odi get to sleep, he doesn’t have to be up just because I have to, and because I think I sleep better when I don’t both breastfeed, sleep, cuddle, snack, watch series and calm her down in the same place, my bed is for sleeping. As soon as she’s done I take her into our room, cuddle for a bit and then put her into the bed we have in there. And she sleeps pretty well now in between the feedings.
In the baby room I keep my nursing basket, a basket with the stuff I need for the feedings, I keep 2 water bottles in my bedroom and 2 bottles in there baby room, I mean, wow, I did not know what thirsty was until I started breastfeeding, it’s almost worse than when you’re hungover, and snacks of course!
I feel so much better having a routine to follow, and of course it’s not perfect. Sometimes you have to give up and follow the baby instead. But I do feel better having something to follow and something to work towards. It also feels great when we make progress and she, for example, falls back asleep on her own during a nap. Creating the best circumstances for ourselves.
Keep an eye out for my next post on our morning routine!