When I first found out that I was pregnant I was super happy and excited. But I’ll be honest it also made me super scared and gave me a hint of panic. What happened during the first few weeks was really interesting (now haha), I had somewhat of an identity crisis. Realizing that I would become a mum suddenly gave life to this voice in my head starting to criticizes everything that I’m doing in my life and telling me that I am so far from ready for this.
So first of all, is anyone every ready? Second of all, it wasn’t a voice coming from me, it was a voice coming from society. So since my job is not really traditional and building a business can be a struggle, and take time, suddenly I started thinking that I should run straight out and get a 9-5. I also started thinking of all the things I would have to give up and how from now on everything I do have to super responsible, no wonder about that hint of panic ha?
So I gave myself 2 weeks of staying in my own head, complete meltdown to organizing my thoughts, starting to make sence and come back to myself with acceptance of this new situation. With the help of a coach (thank you Sandra) seriously, never tried a coach of some sort? Do, now. You probably need it, everyone does.
I realised that becoming a mum and starting a family didn’t mean my life was gonna stop it means that my life is about to start. And even though it might mean I have to change how I do things it doesn’t mean I have to give everything up. Nor does it mean that I have to have all my shit together, cause who does, really? And it definitely did not mean that I needed to go out and get a 9-5, it more so gave me such a strong why to get my business where I want, since my business gives me time freedom to actually be with my kid as much as I want.
So the identity crisis was solved, for now, I still can’t understand that I’m gonna become a mum. I don’t know if I’m ready and I’m sure I won’t do everything right, but I do know that just like in every other part of my life, I will go my own way, and thankfully, I have the most supporitve and amazing person to do all this with, and I couldn’t be more excited.
How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant?
Do you think it’s important to have it all together before you become a parent?
Did you ever go to coach and what was your expereince?